In Honour of Declan McAteer

There is no easy way to begin writing what are now memories. Declan was what some may call a gentle giant at 6ft4 he was easily picked out of any crowd.
He grew up with mum, dad my sister Helen and I. As kids we spent many happy hours, days and years in each other's company. Taking many family holidays, completing homework around the table and playing games. We have always been a very close family and remained close even as we grew up.
Declan was a very hard worker and from around the age of four went to work along with his dad in McCann's bakery getting up on cold dark winter mornings to help out in any way he could. As soon as his legs could reach the paddles he was ready to go and began driving Lorries along with dad at 17.
When McCann's closed he began work in a tar squad on the roads. The strongest memories i have of this time, is the smell of tar of his vis vest and the funny stories he would tell over dinner such as the nick names the boys had for each other, one known as "Bad Child". It was left up to your imagination why...

With a love for driving and cars throughout his life driving for OReilys  sweet people was the perfect job for him. That and his love for chocolate. Here Declan worked right up to his last day. Often working overseas and doing long hours.
Always willing to lend a hand to anyone in need no matter how big are small the job was, he was eager to please especially when it came to my grandparents, Often times he got known by family as "The apprentice", 
Declan had been married and when it ended he continued living out of home, however he called every evening for dinner and took his much loved dog Sheba for a walk. Declan didn't care much for anything fancy.
He took his own life on the 21st of April 2011 it was Holy Thursday.
He was buried on Easter Sunday with the words of the Adel song "someone like you".
Like anyone who has been in this position we will always have questions if only? What if? And wonder why.
Declans' passing has left a very big void in our family and this affected not only us but his wider family and friends.
The PIPS Newry & Mourne organisation has helped our family cope with a lot; their services have helped guide us though the months that pass so fast, and give us hope in knowing that we are not alone.
Our endless thanks go to all our family and friends who have helped us though the grief and continue to walk the path with us though extremely difficult time.

A loving reflection for Declan
Feel no guilt in laughter; he'd know how much you care.
Feel no sorrow in a smile that he is not here to share.
You cannot grieve forever; he would not want you to.
He'd hope that you could carry on the way you always do.
So, talk about the good times and the way you showed you cared,
The days you spent together, all the happiness you shared.
Let memories surround you, a word someone may say
Will suddenly recapture a time, an hour, a day,
That brings him back as clearly as though he were still here,
And fills you with the feeling that he is always near.
For if you keep those moments, you will never be apart
And he will live forever locked safely within your heart